[amom4life]

Originally posted by riley6

That's not to say there aren't wrong reasons to want a child to fulfill your life. If my life was empty and I expected a child to fulfill that void, it would be wrong to adopt. If all my friends were having kids and I wanted to fit in and needed a child to fulfill that missing person in my life, that would be wrong. If I wanted a cute little token to fulfill me getting attention when I went out, that would be wrong. If I could never make it in sports, music, school, or other area in my life and thought a child could fulfill that missing part, that would be absolutely the wrong reason to adopt a child.

But if my life is great and I'm missing that special little someone to share it with, or my life is already fulfilled, but I have so much extra love and devotion to give to someone, why can't I selfishly choose a child to adopt and commit to? And in that case, adoption isn't about the child (bc there is NO child), it's about the pap and their needs. IMO, that's ok.

Well stated Riley! And I guess I must be the S-L-O-W-E-S-T typist on this forum!

Judy