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If abmom places a child and an aparent adopts ....then who is it for....to make bmoms life easier, to fulfill aparents need to parent...which is more important? I say the one that is having lifelong decisions being made for them, the ones whose fate is at the adults decscretion....
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DPEN - I have to say I dont think placing a child for adoption makes a "bmoms life easier" - it didnt mine, nor have I yet talked to a bmom who has felt that way.
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like maybe a birthmother cant afford to provide for a child financally. but she wants to raise her child anyway. she feels she NEEDS to keep her child with her. in this case it is importent that she look beyond her own needs and wants and do what is best for the child, which is relenquishment if she cant afford to provide
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St.IVES - I cant say I agree with you on saying what is best for the child is relinquishment if the mother cant' afford to provide -not in today's times - there are many programs out there to help single moms get on their feet and raise their child if that is what they want. And to most moms it is "wanting to raise their own child" more than a "need to raise their own child".