Rily, I responded to you in the other thread. And yes it is about the child!!! If having this child makes you and extened family happy..great!! It can only help the child!! If abmom places a child and an aparent adopts ....then who is it for....to make bmoms life easier, to fulfill aparents need to parent...which is more important? I say the one that is having lifelong decisions being made for them, the ones whose fate is at the adults decscretion....

Whether one gives birth to, or adopts a child , the childs needs always come first. That is one of the most amazing things I learned after having children...I was shocked at how my life and some of the things that I believed to be important were not any more. So, Yes its about the child, any child bio or not! If it is not then ...I question someones decisions to have children. Our needs to parent help the kids ...then there is no problem....if adults needs come first then yes...expect problems.