[riley6]

I didn't want to change the thread before, so I'm posting this here. The statement was made that "far too often adoption seems to be about the adults involved....not the children". I said:

I disagree. I think it's OK to have adoption be about the adults involved. I had my own reasons for wanting to adopt. I HAD to have an excuse to stay home and not go on vacation. I WANTED to spend all my money on someone other than my dh. I COULDN"T stand the site of empty bedrooms. My grown kids didn't want to split their inheritance six ways instead of two and I wanted to piss them off. ONLY KIDDING, of course. The reason I adopted was VERY selfish! I LOVE BEING A MOM! I have two grown kids and couldn't stand the thought of not having the laughter of children (as well as the squabbling) fill my home. I had all this experience raising challenging kids and didn't want to waste it. I, I, I. I have tons of reasons to adopt and they all begin with I. They are all about MY needs. I have a NEED to be a mom!

I've said many times on this and other forums. Adoption is NOT just about the child. It's about the family, including the parents. Yes, the child should benefit, but show me a parent that doesn't benefit by being blessed by a child?