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originally posted by JadedSaint
So who are you to tell me that I am being selfish? I have a desire to be a parent, bottom line. Whether it comes from adoption, or from a child my husband and I create together, your post comes off rude and out of line. If you seek adoption in order to build a family, that is wonderful! It fits your lifestyle. But don't you dare knock on anyone who decides to bring a child into this world biologically. Quite frankly, it is none of YOUR business!
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This is what you call
"educating? After posting the above, I find your subsequent post:
"However, mutual respect is something that is 100% necessary on a public forum. I was not blasting the original poster, but trying to educate her by pointing out how some of her statements were uncalled for" a complete contradiction. Smilestunner made a general statement of her feelings
"I see it as being selfish to only want your own children." and you took it completely personal. Did I perhaps miss the post where she said
"Jaded Saint, YOU are selfish"? Your response reads like a
"blast" to me!
Then you add
"Ironically, she has yet to return to this thread. I certainly wish she would so she can learn from her mistake!" Look at the reception she received. Why would she return? Who decides her feelings are a mistake? Perhaps she learned that some people will not tolerate an opinion that is different than their own, and that is why she has not returned. BTW, your response to StevieM further conveyed a
"holier than thou attitude."
smilestunner: I actually agree with much of your original post. I look around at the world conditions and I don't understand wanting to bring another life into this mess. A friend of mine feels that some are so impressed with themselves that they want to create a child in their own image.
I'm always amazed when I read that it's only older children in the system. Weren't they once reasonably healthy newborns/infants to? As I read some of the posts here, I'm glad my parents did not feel I was unadoptable due to the fact that I was 13 months old when they met me.
Hope a child that needs a loving home finds their way to yours. You are not as alone in the way you feel as some may want you to believe.