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Originally posted by smilestunner
I am just really frustrated.
It just really makes me angry that I cannot find one person out there who agrees with me......
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I find it amusing that while we are picking out "offensive" parts of the middle of smilestunner's post, we miss the beginning and the end. While I don't know her situation any more than you do, from her post, it seems obvious that she is "frustrated," "angry," and probably a bit confused. After all, those of us who (as far as we know) are able to conceive yet choose to adopt instead have to deal with some pretty weird comments from people. I mean, if I was infertile, apparently it would be O.K. to "settle" for an adopted child with all of these problems, or so other people seem to think... But since I haven't even
tried to conceive, I must be nuts!
While I can understand that some of her words may have come across as offensive, it bothers me that so many of the replies have been about the offense, and not the topic of the post. Perhaps it would be more helpful to point out to smilestunner (as many of you
have done - thanks!) that there are people here -- including parents with bio children!
-- who will not say stupid comments to her like others who don't know about adoption may say. That we too hurt about the number of children without families, and we are doing what we can to help them one at a time. Then, and only then, I think it would be good to point out that some of what she said comes across as harsh toward parents with bio children.
**Having re-read this thread just after posting my reply, I think I, too, came across as harsh, so here comes the post script...
I noticed that I latched on to just a few replies about the "offensive" post, and I forgot how many people really did reply in a way that was kind, supportive, and understanding, even with a few constructive criticisms. So, thank you all (or most of you, anyway...), and I'm sorry for overreacting. I guess I am just not easily offended, and I hate to see posters swamped by people who are -- which fortunately was not what really happened in this case. Sorry again.