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Originally posted by Jeanne21
I do agree with this. For me, adoption is the way I will build my family. I have no interest whatsoever in biological children.
As for others stating that the above was rude, or trying to push them into only adopting.... I can't see how that is the case, this person stated that "I see it as being selfish"... smilestunner is allowed her own viewpoint, she is not pressuring you in any way...
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Like I had pointed out, as well as other replies, sharing your opinion to this forum is one thing, but down right posting offensive statements and false claims is another. You had made the statement that you have no desire to have a bio child and that building a family through adoption is the best decision for you. But did you go around telling everyone else NOT to have bio children because it's selfish? Did you try to preach to others how many "orphans" or "foster children" stay institutionalized until 18 with no love and guidance, and then become hateful people in society?
The original poster came to this forum and posted for the first time. Yet she did not learn forum etiquette prior to posting. She might not be pressuring me in any way to adopt soley to take in those "poor orphans", but her comments were out of line and she made claims in which she cannot back up. Her profile states she is 19 years old; a young lady that might not have as much life experience as others who have been through the adoption process. Or, perhaps this young lady is or was a hurt child who stayed in the system until she reached 18. We don't know because she never introduced herself to the forum.
But the bottom line is this: Adoption is for some, but not for all. Having a bio child is for some, but not for all. For many, it is equally important. But to preach how selfish it is to have bio children only and NOT adopt is unacceptable. I truly hope that smilestunner remains active on this forum and learns all about the emotional roller coaster if she does plan on adopting in the future.