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Originally posted by smilestunner
So then I tell them that I see it as being selfish to only want your own children. They claim children in the system are not our problem and that they want their own children because they can share a special bond with them.
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Just a couple of comments here. First, I understand your frustrations.
Next, when someone adopts, they become your own children. At least they should be considered as such. I don't mean that children are possessions, but that when you adopt, that child becomes a true part of your family. At least that's how it should be.
I can tell you that as an adoptive Mom, I share a very special bond with my children.
However, not everyone is cut out to be an adoptive parent. Some people are not comfortable with parenting a child they didn't create for various reasons. These are the people who shouldn't adopt as they wouldn't be able to treat a child the same way they would a biological child.
JJ