Adoption is a wonderful way to build a family, but so is having bio children. I don't think anyone is selfish for wanting to have bio children or if they only want bio children for that matter. I don't think anyone is selfish who CAN have bio children, but choose to adopt instead.
The "their own children" comment isn't a good one because We have 1 bio child and two adopted and they are all "our own children".
I think it is arrogant to tell someone how 'you' think they should build 'their' family. As another poster said it really isn't your business just as you wouldn't want someone to tell you how to build yours. It is a very personal decision.
Please don't get offended or hurt by what we're saying to you. I really do hope you stick around. We all have room to learn.
Judy