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press fpr medical
I think at this point I would press the baunts for medical information... especially in light of the one other sib having recently died at what appears to be a somewhat early age.
I don't think I would press for personal contact yet... get that medical info first. If bridges are burned before that information is obtained they can't be rebuilt and it will forever be lost.
If the sibs are all of the age you have mentioned I think I would contact them after the med info was obtained... that will certainly be a couple more weeks and that will have been long enough for everyone to start to get used to the idea that your friend is there.. and waiting.
Just my 2 cents.... It seems unthinkable to me that they wouldn't be willing to fill out a medical questionaire and provide the ages of death of parents and grand parents, at least (cousins could be useful is there are any trends too) along with causes of death. Even the people most strongly against adoptees having the right to contact have to usually conceded that basic medical history is a right that can't be argued about.
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