[MJT]

Here goes. X has not seen child in over a year(says it's my fault) I have tried contacting the x about visits but only get threats for a response. I talked to an attorney who said that the best thing to do is nothing, right now. He feels we need to wait a year until the child is a little older then let my husband adopt. We have a psychologist saying contact of any sort from the bf would be damaging to the child. There is a lot more to the story but my question is.: How hard is it to actually terminate the rights of a bf if they contest? I know that adoption is best and the child has ask about it many times. ( we avoid the topic with the child and change the subject). How hard is it to talk to your children about this? I do lnot want to get the child's hopes up only to have them crushed in court. Any advice.
Oh, and NO the x has not dupported the child in over 2 yrs.
According to my states laws the x is guilty of 1)parental disinterest 2)failure of reasonable efforts 3) failure to maintain contact 4) failure to provide support 5) child's best interest 6) no visitation with child in over a year.
Another question if x sends a card every 4 months does that count as contact with the child just throws it away without opening it?