Hi there, You are explaining yourself just fine.

I am an adoptee that has had genrally no problem with being adopted. I think the reason being that adoption in our house was never a secret. It was part of normal everyday conversation. Well maybe not everyday, but it could have been!. I credit my parents with not making it something to be ashamed of...it was just a fact...

They "told"us about it long before we could understand...told us what happened....we were born in someones elses tummy, she was unable to take care of us...but she loved us very much, It became in my mind "the story"...how socia;l worker brought us to them, ect, ect, We knew the whole story(well, only what they knew) and always had access to our non idenitfy info. It was always a positive thing. As a young child, I would watch t.v. and see an american indian or a princess and say "Thats my mother" Mom let me have my fantasies, never became defensive, always let us say anything about the subjecat and allowed as many questions as we wanted to ask.

When I grew up and had my own children she would tell themm the whole thing over and over as they asked" How mommy came into our family"



IMO,...The fact that they are adopted should always be known, it should't be a situation where you have to "sit down and have the talk"...in my mind "having the talk" connotates something serious and grave. If they use the word adopted before they can equate anything neg to it...it becomes just part of who they are!!

I was 2 1/2 years old when I was adopted and I accepted what my mom and dad told me....I never felt ashamed, rejected, or abandonaned. I credit my mom and daad for that. They allowed me to be who I was, their daughter and the daughter of my birtmom.

Donna