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When our children first came to live with us, so much of our time was spent bonding and attaching that my dh and I didn't go out at all for the first 6 months. It was difficult to get back into our own relationship but we knew we needed to make the effort, no matter how time consuming it is.

Now, almost 2 years later, we have a date night at least once a month, sometimes twice. We have 3 babysitters that we rotate with and they are all wonderful. Usually we have dinner at a "grown up" place and either see a movie or what we've done lately is go to our local coffee shop and pick a book that we've both read to discuss. Also try very hard not to discuss the kids, although we break that rule at times. We also have 1 day a week where we take time out just for ourselves. I have a weekly dinner with a girlfriend and he plays in his band.

What I miss the most is not the going out necessarily, but staying home and hanging out without all the interruptions etc. For our last anniversary, instead of going somewhere for the weekend, we sent the kids to their individual godparents for the weekend and we stayed home. It was great!