How should I approacher her?
I have researched and found a member of my birthmother's family. She has so far refused contact with me and continues to deny maternity. The family member I found still lives at the address she listed on my birth certificate. It also list her name and the place of her birth.
I occasionally contact her stepbrother to let him know that the line of communication to me is still open. I recently found out that she lost her husband and I am hoping now that if his finding out about me was a hindrance that maybe she will reconsider and at least give me the name of my birthfather so I can try to contact him or his family.
I have tried to arrange a conference call with her but I don't know if she has accepted the invitation yet. Since my birthfather was not listed on the birth certificate and the non identifying information is too general to begin an online search, She, Leona, holds the key to the answers I need.
I avoided watching the Antwone Fisher story for many reason, but when I finally saw it, especially the ending when he located his birthfather's family, I could not help but be moved with the hope that maybe these people in my life would be at lease 50% as receptive. At this time I want information. I need to know who I look like, if the things I like are similar to at least one of my birth parents. I would like to know if I have any siblings? There is an emptiness to living with the though of not being genetically linked to someone you know. It is hard to explain this to those who have not experiences or who do not know the feelings associated with being placed for adoption early in life.
I have not idea who cared for me in the first two years. But I do show some of the classic symptoms of a person who was not properly nurtured early in life. I know there are others out there who share my feelings. I could use the support.
If there is anyone who currently lives in Cleveland, Ohio and can help by identifying the high school in the area Leona lived in, or finding a year book to see if there is any indication who she dated in HS or any old friends I might be able to contact, this would help.
The information I have states that they dated each other in the last two years of high school and graduated in January 1954. He also worked in the kitchen of a hospital in Cleveland before and after graduation. He liked movies and so do I, he liked to sing, so do I, roller skate, so do I and it also noted that he was quite social and like by most people... so am I.
