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so did you wind up adopting the 7th child? How many of your children did the offender violate? With our oldest I beleive it was more an act of control and anger then sexuality and curiosity. He's been quite hostile towards our birth daughter for several years but I always chalked it up to sibling rivalry compounded by the fact that they aren't siblings by birth. I had no idea it would get so bad, I didn't realize that his anger was so horrible. Do you have any children by birth as well? AS much as we want to go forward with adding to our family, I also worry about the perception that we've "replaced" the offender. Because many people don't know why he's been placed out of our home or know that we are pursuing adoption, these are private matters, many are aware he's living with my parents. I know the opinions of others don't matter, but I still feel like it's going to look poorly. As well we haven't continued discussion with the offender about the adoption process. Like I'd said before, he doesn't live here, and I won't have him living here, bot for now, while on probation and treatment, I haven't been vocal about that to him, everyone else knows but he's so far away from placement, I think at this point it would just upset him further, I think once he seems like he's on trackk then this is something that can be discussed and permant placement ideas can be discussed. Part of me thinks that sounds like a coward, but he's messed up enough without realizing he's homeless as well. I don't want to be another person in a long line of people who lets him down and sends him away.
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