[EngelSchatzy]

I am not trying to get anyone worked up here, but the original post was "Do we have a chance at adoption?" and the first negative response was taken as an insult. I do not believe that the person who responded to the original post was trying to pry or offend anyone. Before you think that I am trying to judge your choices, I am not. I was in a relationship for many years (almost 13) that had a 12 year age gap, so I know where you are coming from. I found out that I had a horrible combination of female problems and was going to have to have a hysterectomy. So my spouse and I started trying frantically to have a baby. After years of putting off the inevitable, fertility drugs and clinics, and god only remembers how many surgeries. I was faced with this reality. No children and no possibility of ever having one. I was really young at the time. At the age of 25, I was forced to have my hysterectomy. At first I fell apart, but then I came to terms with it. It just wasn't my time. Now I am married to a wonderful man (closer to my own age), I have grown up considerably (even though I thought I was then) and we have decided that I was meant to be a mother, I just wasn't built to give birth. We decided there was a child out there that needs us more than any child we could create together.
Adoption is a very touchy subject to each individual person. We all have our own reasons for what we decide (or feel). If you ask a question on a public forum, be ready for what people really feel. I do not think she was trying to pry, hurt your feelings or put you down. She was just stating her opinion. I do not believe your situation would stop all agencies from accepting you, but I do think prospective birthmothers *may* think twice before selectin you.