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Colleen,

I'm sorry to hear about both your brothers expecting. I know it's a happy time for them- and you are right to have them call you (I always hate when people keep those secrets because it might 'hurt' me - I think it's worse when theydo). It still doesn't make it any easier. It got to the point where my sister, who is very fertile, wouldn't even call me when I had a loss because she felt guilty and didn't know what to say to me. It's not easy for them either.

Like you said though, your turn will come. It just takes time. But once you do have your baby, you will forget all the heartaches it took for him/her to arrive.

We have started the homestudy, though we do not meet with social workers for a bit. We are currently working on new questionnaires which I hope to be in the mail to the agency by Friday. I guess once they review that they come up with a report, submit it to our director and if she gives it the okay, they will set up meets with us.

Monica, you mentioned you also have a facilitator in mind - are they local? I'm curious as when I was looking around here I didn't find any local ones.

? for both of you - I have heard from people who have adopted that they had signed on with two agencies, or an agency and a facilitator - have you heard of that and were either of you thinking of doing that? Just curious.