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That's a tough one. It seems that bisibs would have the right of contact, but that does interfere with the b-mom's decision to deny contact. If posible your freind should try to speak with the b-aunts and get a feel for the family.
Contact with the b-sibs could be a wonderful experience, or just lead to heartbreak all around. I am a reunited adoptee, but I just can't see any good way to inform the sibs they have another one out there. As adoptees it seems like there is no way to avoid causing strife within our b-families sometimes.
I am in a similar situation where one of my four b-sibs either does not know of my existence or the other b-sibs think he doesn't. He was seven when I was born, they think that he doesn't remember his mother's pregnancy. I sometimes wonder about that. I remember my a-mom's pregnancy when I was four. For now, I am respecting my other three b-sibs wishes and not seeking contact with him.
I would try to establish contact with the aunts and go slowly from there. If the aunts decide against contact, it would just depend on how brave and crazy your freind is. It would surely be a gamble, but odds are at least one sib would be okay with it.
Good Luck,
LewEllen
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