Hi i would take any advice i have been waiting for a while for an out of state placement. Each day i wait by the phone because the paperwork will arrive anyday. I am a little nervous. I have been talking to the foster mom who has only had her for four weeks and she has told me about what behaviors she has noticed.
Stealing, being sneaky, lying, at times being smart with an adult but very apologetic when the foster mom says it is inappropriate, and acting as if she does not understand to throw you off. Oh yeah and the latest saying that she sees things that no one else does ( i am assuming it is from the scary movies she loves, or she is very imaginative but i am guessing counseling will help with this
) Any advice on how to set the tone about expectations in your home ( she is nine) i thought about a behavior chart. Also what are some consequences for breaking rules? And should this be discussed day 1?
Also she asked if her name could be changed and i said not until the adoption finalization. Do you feel it is okay if i give her a nick name and should i talk with her as we are on the plane about what we will call her from this day forward or should i wait for her to bring it up again.