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Originally Posted By Pam

I'm not exactly new to adoption, so I should know by now that it isn't always a smooth process, but I've never adopted interstate before and wondered what MAY be going on (I know nobody can know for sure). We live in the Midwest and have found a 10 year old boy who lives out in the NE. They have our homestudy and we already met him via teleconference and his worker wanted to place him with us. It looked like it was going to be really fast. First of all, the state of NJ had to come to the state of WI for us and check out our home, then the boy was supposed to visit for a week, then if all went well, he was going to come back and stay for good. That was before school started. The boy got a new social worker, and now she is on vacation until the end of Sept. The last time I talked to the Adoption Coordinator of the state she said nobody will be coming out until after the worker is back, then they will come out to our house, with or without the boy (they haven't decided yet). then we can start visits. START visits. This child lives far away from us. How many visits do they usually do when a c hild lives in another state? It's not as easy to do as if he lived here. And we can't go THERE more than once, if they want us to go there...my hub just got a new position at his job, and can't take off much. How does this interstate adoption usually work? We th ought we were going to get him by the beginning of the school year. Now we are being told Thanksgiving or even Christmas. What if this new worker that the boy has doesn't like us? The other one did, but he's gone. It has been hard for NJ to find a home for this precious little boy, and here we are. Any feedback on the process of interstate adoption? I want to hang in there, but I need encouragment, I think. Thanks in advance.