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In reading through this whole thread, I can see that others are deeply affected by incest. Our daughter has a rare condition that requires her to take cortizone three times a day, with three month blood work-ups to determine the dosage. Stress and illnesses with high fevers can take her life within 24 hours. We've experienced this one time with the flu. Her Endocronologist is writing a letter of concern for her health.
We are in the process of documenting her need for her brother to not reenter the home, even for visits. We have found the psychiatrist, who is evaluating our son, after reading all the documentation on him, is in agreement with us about him not coming home.
His placement head-guy is just waiting for us to get all the evaluations together so he can approach the DHS with the fact that he is in the wrong place. He's a nice guy.
Where we live, the DHS is telling the court that he can not go to a PMIC (sexual offender placement) with a low IQ. DHS wants to place him in foster care! This is such a contradiction of what they (DHS) stand for. He does not need a place to perp again. Anyway, there are no foster homes who would take him. So we struggle on knowing that everyone will "get it" and put him where he can get help, sooner or later.
We have offered, time and again, to use our insurance for some of the services he is receiving; but NO, they use the state's resources; and then the state sends us a letter saying that because we did not adopt him from the state, we must reimburse them for ALL of the expenses. We have a wonderful lawyer who is helping us, or I don't know where we would be now.
We have gone ahead and, through our doctor, made appointments for an EEG, and a MRI for next week; using our insurance.
I'm just amazed at how the state jumps to conclusions whenever there is a parent who voluntarily turns their child in for this type of abuse. Thank you all for a place to talk. HangingOn.
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