I just wanted to give "kudos" to, "Roche" for his post. I enjoyed your post and your sharing very much.
Being the "white" mother to an AA boy, and his adoptive father (my X) is also, "white".. we know we both adooooore our son and give him every ounce of love we have to offer. I couldn't have wished for a better son than I have. He is my heart.
It's nice to see that you were comfy with your surroundings as well and as well were educated enough to understand what you "could" have lived like if not adopted. My son's birth mother is a drug prostitute, 7 kids..
Lord knows where my baby would be right now without God's hand in bringing him to us. I am truly honored to have him in my life. Frankly, I don't give a rats petunia what people say when they see me out with him, "He's my boy!"...lol I will hopefully teach him the importance in knowing that family is family because of love, support, trust and so much more, not the color of your skin or blood line.
I will tell you something that did disgust me though. To make a long story short. I was out watching a friend play darts one night and some man sitting next to me was trashing AA's. Eventually he learned my son was AA, then he "assumed" my husband at the time was AA, then he had the absolute audacity to sit there and say to me:
"Well, that's all fine and dandy that you're cleaning up some AA's mess up but it's best that you teach him to stay within his race and not fall in love and marry and have kids with any "white folks"...!!!
OMG (Grrrr) I was so freaking mad! I said:
"Are you telling me to tell my son NOT to love a white girl JUST because of a race issue when he ALREADY loves a white woman, HIS MOTHER?"
...and well, I can't type out the rest of the rant I went on, lol.. but dang it I was ticked off.
Ignorance, it amazes me everyday what people assume or how "closed" their brains are.
God loves all people and therefore we should do the same..
Peace,
MoFM