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"Positive reinforcement can cause anxiety? Good grief! I've heard it all now! This sounds like a very liberal point of view and I don't agree with it "
heres a little education for you:
we are talking about adoptive children here. There are some kids who have been adopted and need to control their surrondings for fear of 'dying'.....there is no gray with some of these kids.
so, for positive reinforcement, yes, it can cause anxiety.....they start to do real well and then they start to get anxious because they are starting to let their control mechanisms down and that scared them to death....then they resort back to their old behaviors on trying to keep people away.
though no disrepect to your sister, but these are not 'normal' kids we are talking about.
plus, kids respond differently to any parenting.
i bet if you ask your sister is there one way to parent a child, she will say no. If there was, we would not need this forum or there wouldnt be so many parenting books.
before you reply, ask your sister what she thinks...
dadfor2
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