|
Dawn, hello and welcome! The best advice I can give you is to stick to your guns. In other words don't let anyone ever persuade you into taking a child you are not comfortable with from the get go. I had this happen to me. Actually my agency didn't tell me the truth and went I went to pick up the baby I learned that he was not the race I was comfortable with. I felt so bad for him I did take him home but wound up backing out of the placement some weeks later and I felt awful! I just couldn't convince myself to be comfortable with the placement no matter how hard I tried. Does is make me a racist? No. Although there are people (sadly) on this board who would think so.
I have found that people who have adopted outside of their race are very very touchy about this topic. Sometimes I wonder if they too are still trying to convince themselves that they are comfortable. I hope not.
Anyway, it is quite alright and very common and very normal to want a child that will fit. We waited only 4 months and received the placement of a baby boy and he looks so much like me and my husband that we have a hard time convincing people we didn't birth him! I have to say I love that he looks like us, it just makes us feel even closer.
There is nothing wrong with adopting outside your race so long as you are comfortable with it God bless you! But if you aren't then don't let anyone guilt you into it.
Be patient, the child God has for you will come home.
|