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THis is Dawn again. I am so thankfull for all the responses I got. I am really glad I wrote this post. SO glad to see that there are others adoptive parents that feel like we do. That is conforting to us.
I am not going to go into the usual explanations that people say about some of my best friends are AA, I work with AA.
I am bi-racial Hispanic, a have a bit of African blood in me, I am in no way a racist. But what I am is a private person, just like I don't want everyone to know that my daughter was a result of an IVF cycle (Too many close minded people out there and in my family that are just not familiar with Infertility and think that IVFis mad science) I want to spared the stupid advice about old wife's tales about IF, or my favorite put it out of your mind and you will be pg next month.
Same way, we want my have our privacy abot our second child being adopted ( My Dh is adamant about this) Of course we will tell out child that he is adopted, etc. But we don't want to have to talk about it with every one that wants to know. We just don't want to handle that kind of attention.
In a perfect world we would all get alonf just fine and racism would not exist, but since we are not ther yet, we have to love in this one.
We can certain only see socially people that we approve of or that have similar moral values, but I cannot we cannot pick all the other students in our kid's school, or the neighbors down the street.
Actually if I had my choice a Hispanic child would be first choice because that is what I am familiar with and can share my culture with.
I really do appreciate all the answers , even the ones that blasted me. I really like this BB.
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