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Old 03-29-2004, 10:05 AM
Dawn-NJ Dawn-NJ is offline
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Does it make me a bad mother to want a child that racewise fits in our family.

We are a bi-racial couple, DH is CC, I am Hispanic (I look like a light skinned cc/aa mix) We have a bio daughter that looks very much like me, but with even lighter skin and light colored eyes.
We decided to go foster/adoption for our next child. OUr goal is to find a boy to adopt, we are in our early 40's and want to complete out family as soon as possible. Starting classes at end of April with a private agency.
The preliminary paperwork I have filled out, and my conversation with the agency person we told them that we were intrested in a cc, Hispanic child or a mix raced child similar to our daughter. After having few conversations with my dh this is what we decided . We don't feel that we would be comfortable with a child or another race. THat would look totally different than us and have people stare or have the child feel like an outsider.
I feel very strange saying this, I feel I sound like a racist. I know we are not. But from just reading this I am sure it seems that way.
Is there anyone out here that feels the same way. I am scared of getting a lot of bashing responds , but I know that I will. I wanted to write this a while a go but was scared to do so. But it seems to me that there must be others that feel this way.
We live in New Jersey.
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