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Originally Posted By Cheryl

Okay. What is the problem with giving a "shower" for a new child. I understand how people talk about others that have one baby shower after another... And why does adoption have to be emphasized. This is a child coming to live with a new family. This child is a person that deserves just as much as any "natural" child would get. So if the child is older, say two to 17 years old throw a "welcome" party. Invite everybody! Don't just invite the girls. Invite whole families. I have adopted three times. The first was a baby shower just before going to get our infant son. Entire families were invited. The next, for a four year old boy, was a bar-b-que at church that included entire families especially those with children. The last one was a welcome party for our daughter that was 17 when she came to us. The people I work with gave this shower. Most everyone was invited. We requested no gifts but most everyone brought presents.

I just don't understand why "adopted" children have to be treated differently than "natural" children.