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Coincedently my 2 best friends have also adopted. One of them I met in college before we ever had kids. We both ended up adopting at seperate times years later. The other one I met through a playgroup for our oldest kids. She adopted 10 years later. I belonged to an adoptive parents group that we were active in until my child was 4 years old. Then gradually we lost contact. I think what happens is in the beginning you need someone to talk to about being adoptive parents, and after awhile you just become a parent. We ended up having concerns about schools, sports, etc. regular parenting issues- and we had lots of people to talk about it with. Plus our adoption has gone smoothly, I might have sought more support if I needed it. I am on these boards pretty intensely right now because I am working on my senior seminar project involving adoption narratives. I interviewed some live people, but I also wanted to see what members of the triad talked about without asking. I find myself getting caught up way more than I imagened I could. I really feel more educated on the views of birthmothers and adult adoptees. I only know one bmom outside my children's, so its good to read their stories and see their insights.
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