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Wow, you really did JUST go through the beginnings of the adoption. How are you doing?
As far as being worried about the adoption being closed, how well do you know the adoptive parents so far? Have you talked about how much contact you are planning on having?
In most states, openness isn't legally enforcable (there have been quite a few threads about this lately), but this seems to be slowly changing.
I haven't ever been in the situation where I worried that my adoption would close. The adoptive family and my family has always been very considerate about how the other is feeling...if we don't know, we ask, even if it is kind of hard. We haven't used the term "boundaries" but in the beginning we set pretty clear boundaries and followed them. Since then, our relationship has evolved and is quite comfortable and natural feeling. It has been a journey, but very much worth it.
I wish you lots of luck. I hope things go well for you.
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