I can really understand what you are going through. I was a birthmom when I was 17 and am now starting the process of becoming an adoptive parent. I am also an adoptee. Sometimes I don't know if being able to see this situation from all sides is a curse, or a huge blessing. It can feel like walking a tightrope at times. I think that it is wonderful for you to be concerned about your bmom's feelings. I'm sure that if you are just honest with her, it will get easier. Tell her how you feel and ask her what she is comfortable with, too. I have learned through my experiences that the process of adoption can bring both pain and great joy to all the people involved. Anything worthwhile does. Remember you're not alone in your feelings...we are all there with you!
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