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I have for a long time talked about both my excitement at the adoption possibility and at the same time my guilt for wanting to be able to raise this baby and unfortunately that means that the birthmom cannot.. I have also felt like I wanted to say how excited I am, but yet felt like I did not want to upset the birthmom in any way...
I talked with "J" about this and she was just so sweet.. she said that she loves to hear me talk about how excited I am and that she made this decision, we are not forcing her into it and she is the one that talked me out of feeling guilty for my excitement.. that ment to world to me!!!!
I am still careful not to talk about things like the nusery unless she asks.. then I am happy to talk about it and show my excitement...
Good luck and allow yourself to be excited.. also.. like my mom said.. "why not be excited about this baby.. will you be any less dissapointed if this does not work out and you did not show excitement to begin with".. she also pointed out that while most people think its ok for a pregnant women to get excited.. there are never any guarentee's that they will end up parents in the end either..
So.. go for it.. be excited and have those memories..
Mandy
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