Creating a balance
Does anyone have any insight on how to create a good balance in the many feelings that go along with a family adoption? We have been through many years of dissappointing attempts to start our family, and after looking into and preparing for adoption, we were recently approached by our niece to adopt her unborn child. We are so deeply appreciative and honored at the request, and feel so at peace for the first time in a long time for the outcome. We have such deep feelings of respect and admiration for her strength and selflessness. Yet, we are so involved (and definitely want to keep it that way), that we see all that is going on in her personal life with the hardship she is facing. So hard to keep a balance, because on the one hand, we find this to be a very positive situation for us, yet, we ache for her and all that she is now going through with being pregnant at the age of 16, not to mention what she has yet to face. We were approached about this situation a little over a month ago, and since then have been focusing so much on **'s struggles, and her parents' struggles with the situation, that we have forgotten to allow ourselves to be excited for the possibilities this holds for us. I'm sure this will continue, but maybe if we can find a balance, we can not feel so guilty about our quiet enthusiasm. We have waited so long for this opportunity that I want it to be a positive one.
Anxiously awaiting motherhood - mommyatheart
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