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Depends on each case for me. My 2 older foster boys differ. The 8 year old calls me *first name "or" mom, and the 11 year old just calls me *first name to me, sometimes "mom" to only "others" when not around me. I have no issues with any of it. I don't expect to be called mom, I'm not trying to replace their mother, just be a good role model and womanly adult mentor/figure.
*heh- I think the only "irk" that crawls under my skin is when they try to call me (for example) Ms. Samantha, like a school teacher.
As far as younger children, they usually fall into the "Mommy" factor fairly easy due to the fact that my adopted son of course calls me mommy, who's 3 now. The other children want to fit in and feel a bond. Emergency placements (newborns) I receive that stay in my care for a long time usually automatically call me mommy.
The 3 yr old turned four called me mommy most of the time, although when talking about family would call me (Example) MommySamantha, and her biological mother by her first name only. The birth mother wasn't there for her much.
Being called Mom is nice but their comfort is what's important. I enjoyed reading the above comments as well.
~Peace to you and yours,
MoFosterMom
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For it is the child that makes our lives meaningful & remembered in the futures we shall only be apart of through them after we pass on. No child should go unwanted nor unloved.
~Mother of one adopted son, "4" & foster mother of 8 month old infant, and prior foster mother of 5
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