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Just tonight the sweetest thing my new foster son told me. He crashed on his bike and we were sitting in the medical center and he has a hard time remembering mine and my husbands names. He looks at me and says, "Can I just call you guys Mom and Dad, I don't remember names well?" I told him of course he could call us whatever he is comfortable calling us. We have three other children that call us Mom and Dad so I think it is more comfortable for him to feel like he beongs. I totally understand though because my Mom remarried when I was thirteen and to this day I still call my step dad by his first name. I love him like my Dad and he has been there for me but I just have never felt right calling him Dad. I loved my birth Dad and since he past away I almost felt like I was betraying him by calling another man Dad. So, if a child isn't comfortable calling you Dad it doesn't mean he/she loves you any less. I love my step dad with all my heart, as much as my birth Dad but I still feel weird calling him anything but by his first name. I tried and it just feels foreign. When I introduce him to people I introduce him as my Dad. The only time I refer to him by his first name is when talking to him or calling him to get his attention. I always refer to him as Dad in conversations with other people. I use whatever name is comfortable according to the situation.
God Bless
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