A lot of R & C's behaviors are most likely centered around adjustment issues. I have 2 boys similar ages, one just turned three and the other will turn 4 in June. I've had the 3 yr old for 4 months and his behavior has improoved drastically in the last few weeks. It's just taking him longer to settle in, after all we're his 4th family and last
He also had really AWEFUL tantrums to the point that it drove everyone around him nuts. But they have ended. No big tantrums for over 3 weeks.
Our 4 yr old has been here 2.5 months and in the last 2 weeks started getting very comfortable is is talking non-stop. When we first got him we were very worried about his extreem quietness. He has really blossomed. We're his 3rd home and last home
These are our first children ever, both fost/adopt. It's a lot for them to deal with: having new parents who want to adopt them and moving on in life. The adjustment phase is hard on everyone.
Just last week the boys started preschool and loved it. I was such a nervous Mom for them, since I'd spent a lot of time home with them I was attached. They also missed us during the day. But I know they had a great time. I think it was easier for them to go to school knowing that they were already settled in at home.
I know 6 weeks seems like a long time; I used to think it was, but it's so short for a child to feel comfortable. I think by the 6 month point R & C should settle in. I know it can be a grueling wait.