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Charlie, I remember you post from awhile back where you thought you had found her on this site but the email address was outdated. Don't worry that you have not too much to say, just skimming the surface. This is actually best. If you both jump in too fast, this can actually have a negative effect as you can not sustain the emotion and things seem to fall flat. Best to have patience and take things slowly and let thing develop over time. I would say early on set some parameters - such as decide together on frequency of contact. For example start things off by saying - you know, I would like to speak to you at least weekly, even if we don't have much to say. I am interested in know how you are doing and my sibs are doing etc. You decide the time frame and offer suggestion etc. and ask for feedback. Also, you can decide best day/time etc. You and your mother will be feeling a lot of emotions, maybe not the same type at the same time and neither one may be open to sharing right away. It is like walking on eggshells, but that is OK so don't worry. You are my raised son's age so I have a guess what is going on othewise in your life -so many changes for you as you emerge into the world. The say the 18 year old of 25/30 years ago is now the 25/26 year old of today, with so many links to their family they are trying to break fee and become independent. So you do have a lot going on and maybe one way to start a relationship with you new found family is to talk about your hopes and dreams as you start to feel comfortable.
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