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My family (especially my parents) were very concerned about us fost/adopting, especially an older child or of a different race. Lo & behold, along comes our 11 year old daughter (white, like us) and her half brother, now 7, who's CA/AA.
My mother's comment about my dad with my son (said in her usual British accent): "Your fah-thah is love with an-oth-ah mahn, deah." My dad and son adore each other (see the old curmudgeon melt as a little boy flings himself into his arms), and my mother and daughter are a mutual admiration society.
They've been a challenge (the crying, the screaming, the tantrums - and then there's the kids' behavior, y'know?), but they're so, so worth it.
Our son, who arrived with behavioral problems, just got a report card with ALL "satisfactory" ratings for behavior (with a couple of "excellents"). My daughter, formerly failing several subjects in 4th grade, is now in 6 th grade gifted math and acing everything except art and PE. This I can live with.
Give your family a chance. They'll manage, just like you will.
By the way, a healthy stock of Hersheys and a Costco size bottle of Excedrin helps.
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