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Dear Jo Dean,
Thanks for the information, I will look into the book you mentioned and see if the library or Amazon carries it.
Our little Teagan Cassidy Mariah arrived on Feb 19th and we are thrilled with her . We were in the operating room when she was born by c-section and she was immediately handed to us. She spent 2 days in the NICU for low blood sugar, and we made all medical decisions concerning her. We left the hospital with her on the third day . She has been a wonderful baby and is a joy. Since my youngest is 4, we really haven't had a hard time adjusting to the lifestyles of new parents.
Let me tell you a little something of our background. My husband and I have 8 children, now 9 with Teagan. Their ages are 27, 25, 22, 18, 14, 10, 8, 4, and now a 3 week old. I had three children when we married almost 20 years ago and then we had 5 of our own. (Keeping up?). Teagan's bioligical father is the 22 year old and her biological mother is my daughter-in-law, also 22. They have three boys, ages 4,3, and 1. I am so very proud of my d-i-l, she has been amazing and handled things so very well. I worry about my son, he is the one having the hardest time with all of this. I might mention that my d-i-l flew here to deliver and never saw the baby (her request), and my son stayed back in AZ with their three boys. He calls me about once week and cries when he does.He always wanted a little girl and I think that's what is the hardest thing for him. He does drugs and is not steadily working. His mind may know that it's the best, but his heart is breaking. Their 4 year old is having a hard time as well. He asked his father the other day where his sister was and my son said with Bubby (that's what my grandkids call me) and he said, "I know, but when is she coming back?" . Without a doubt, the hardest thing for me as a parent is on one hand the joy and new child brings, and yet my son's heart is breaking. I feel guilty at times, even though I know she is exactly where she belongs, she is safe, warm, very loved, and will never have to experience the fighting that goes on in my son's home. I worry about my 3 grandsons and how they will take knowing she is here. We will raise her to know who her bio-parents and siblings are, but how and when do you do that? I should mention that we are on the east coast and my son lives in AZ. We lived in AZ until last year when we moved here. My son and his wife often lived with us and we were very close to all three boys. In fact, Teagan's biological mom and I gave birth on the same day, 10 hours apart, by the same doctor, when our 4 year olds were born.
Anyway, we hope to have our adoption finalized in court in the next few weeks, it could be as soon as the 23rd of the month. My son and his wife signed the papers on the 21st of Feb and our state has a 30 day wait. Now we just wait on the lawyer.
Thank you for sharing your story with me. I hope to keep in touch with you, maybe we can help each other .
Kelly
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