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Hi Kelly,
Yes, there is someone out there who has adopted there grandaughter from birth. My husband and I have had our Samantha from 3 days old. I have 6 kids. Gave birth to 1 son, now 29 and remaried a man with 5 kids. I have raised 4 of my step children since we married. I am mom to them.
My stepdaughter has a 3 year old son, gave birth to Samantha and could not keep her to raise and asked us to take her. We did and then she had another son who is now 8 months old. ( she kept him) They are all from the same father but they are not married. He is into drugs and in and out of Jail.
My step daughter, Nichole was using drugs also and is homeless. She stays here for a few months and then moves on to somewhere else.
Samantha is very lucky not to have to live that life style. It was very hard at first for me to be a mom again at 51. Early hour feedings, colic, lack of sleep, it can be tough but I would not have changed any of it. Samantha is now 21 months old and calls me mommy. A title I have earned. Our adoption is not final yet but we were told it is not much longer.
I don't know if it will be as tough for you as it has been for me and I hope you adjust quickly. I had a hard time giving up all my free time since all my kids are grown up and out of the house. But the more I see Samantha grow and learn new words and call Mommy every morning from her crib, I know what I did was the right thing for both of us. My husband adores her and she calls him daddy. We will tell her that she is our adopted grandaughter and Nikki, my stepdaughter is her birth mother. NIkki is in Samantha's life and I think that is a good thing for both of them. Telling her about her adoption could be hard since she has 2 full siblings and she will wonder why mommy gave me up and not her brothers.
I did read a good book that you might like to get. It is called "Raising our children's children." written by Deborah Douchette-Dudman. She has adopted her daughters baby girl from birth also. Well written. Has stories of many other grandparents raising there grandchildren. Hope this helps in some little way. Congratulations on being Mommy Again.
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