Kaybee......
Please don't feel guilty because of your feelings. You are certanily intitled NOT to want a relationship with your bmom. My bdaughter is taking our reunion VERY slowly, and really is not interested in meeting me right now. She does write every now and then, but rarely!!! I respect this about her, even though it is hard!!! My advice to you, would be to be HONEST. Don't let her think you want a relationship if you DON'T!!! She will just have to understand.....It is your choice, and your life!!!! Tell her via mail, that you have other things you are focusing on right now....Especially the illness of your dad. If there is NO chance of a relationship with your bparents in the future let them know so they want sit around "waiting". If there is a chance leave the door slightly opened, by saying, "MAYBE, when I am not so busy with children, or caring for my dad, we can resume contact, but until then I prefer all contact to STOP!!! Christi had a good point....Tell her that you are thankful you found each other, and you have been blessed with the info you have received from her. I wish you the best of luck.....You are in my thoughts!!!!
Staci
