I too have no desire to meet my bparents. My adopted parents were my mom & dad & never resented being PICKED by them. I lost my dad in 1971 & my mom 1992. I miss my mom soooo much & would give anything to still have her & talk to her again.
I am engaged to a man & his mom is so much like my own, that I sometimes think mom sent her to me. When we visit his mom (I call her mom) she & I go shopping, sit and talk for hours & she has really made me feel apart of their family, all of his family does.
I respect your feelings & as the others stated you may want to keep the door open for future needs possibly for medical info for your children, or great grandchildren. I wish I had asked more questions before my parents passed on as now I am starting to search for the answers they may have provided. I have 1 dtr 33yrs old, she strongly resembles her fathers side.
Stand by your hearts desires & as the others stated I think you will find a caring understanding way of explaining to your bmom your feelings.
Best of luck & God bless
brenda
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