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Old 03-15-2004, 05:15 AM
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Re: I didn't think it would happen this fast but I found a birthmother !!!

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Originally posted by yasta

My only concerns are:

2. How does relative adoption works ? Does the child calls it's biological mom the same as my sons would call her ? Cousin "Lisa"?


No. Because her primary relationship to the child would not be as a cousin but as a birthmom. Her role as the child's birthmom needs to be respected first and foremost.

Is "Lisa" getting any counseling. While it is an independant adoption, she still needs counseling and education if this is really going to work for everyone, especially the child. Where does your mom live? I might know someone good in the area.


Also, where will the adoption be finalized? In most states you will need a homestudy. Where do you live outside the US? Legally I am not sure how that works. I do know you will not be able to travel outside the US withou a finalized adoption. They are getting really strict about that.

Also, where is the birthfather in all this? He is obviously someone who needs to be considered.
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