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You definately need to allow a lot of room for the child to decide on this one.
Your child could have loyalty issues, and not want to call another man the same name as he uses for his father.
Or, your child could want to fit in with his school friends, and call you whatever they call their fathers.
Or, the child could be told by his parents to call you something.
Or, if you have other children in your home, he may want to fit in with them, too, or differentiate himself from them.
Etc.
Something to remember is that the younger children won't be able to say *which* dad did the abusing if they have very similar names. I have friends who went through that - bio dad did the abuse on a visit, but foster dad was charged with it because the child used the same name for both. They'll never permit that again - whatever the child calls bio parents, child must choose something different for them.
No cut-and-dried answer for this one. You'll get a different opinion from everyone. But if you offer a couple of options to the child, he should settle into one or another fairly quickly, although it may change if he stays with you a long time.
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