I was in a very similar position and I can remember very clearly asking the same questions.
If they have adopted before and they keep contact with that b-mother you stand a good chance they will keep to there word.
Do what is right for you! Make sure that you will be able to go on with your life. It is hard to understand how important that is. You will no longer be the Mommy but this very special person who comes to see this child and the special person who sends gifts.
All the reasons you want to place are good reasons. Explore parenting and see if that is truly something you want to do. I did and I still chose to place for adoption. My b-daughter is now 6 almost 7 years old and she is an awesome well adjusted child.
Be sure this is what you want to do I hate seeing b-mothers that say they never got over it. I did and have a wonderful life now and my b-daughter has a wonderful life.
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