I understand that I may get an a social worker who I am able to explain this incident to and, possibly, get an approved homestudy.
However, if I go through the tremendous pain and expense (homestudies in my state are over $2,500) of detailing things better off forgotten to a social worker what about INS approval?
It doesn't seem likely that if they see the arrest mentioned in the homestudy that they will approve me. After all, there is no one to "explain" things to at the INS, correct? I can prove this man lied (he put it in writing) and even track him down and get him to testify and admit it (he's not hard to find-he is in jail for 2 years) but who would he testify to? Would I be getting into a court battle with the INS? Is that even possible and could I afford it? The homestudy and agency fee's would already have had to be paid. Does anyone know of anyone who has been arrested being allowed to adopt Internationally by the INS???????
I would really appreciate anyone's help on this. What I was trying to say about the past having nothing to do with who I am now was that I have changed. I am a Christian. I would no longer live with a man without being married to him, let alone get involved with someone who is abusive. I am a mature, responsible adult with a huge amount of love to offer a child and wonderful home and a(14 year old) sibling for that child as well. I am willing to adopt an "older" or special needs child or siblings (the adoption agency I am working with has a wonderful reduced fee program for this). If it looks like INS approval will be unlikely, I would probably be better off with a domestic program for an older or special needs child. Does anyone have any agencies to suggest
who work with singles on these kinds of adoptions? Thank you again for any help that is out there.
Maire
