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I got a lot of opposition from my parents. It really hurt me and I have to say to this day I am still resentful.
I have two biological children and my mother made it very clear that she would never accept an older adopted child like she does her biological grand children. She felt it would be "an insult" to her biological grand children if she did love an adopted child equally.
Well, along came 6 yo Stacie. Now my mother showers her with affection and says she loves her just like she were biological. (and she never mentions her previous statements).
I have a real hard time accepting this.
Anna - we also created a letter to give to family and close friends. It explained Reactive Attachment Disorder and why we sometimes parent like we do. In our case it didn't go over too well. Both sets of grandparents think they know more about RAD than we do (even though they had never heard of it).
Dealing with parents has been one of the toughest parts of our adoption. Both sets of parents are pretty involved in our lives (live locally and we see quite often). We have learned to accept that we can't change them and we can't make them see our view. We just changed the way we interact with them.
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