[jamie3]

We certainly have had some trouble with my side of the family. Both of my parents (divorced) have done more than their fair share of trying to get me to "see the light".

I had to listen patiently and just say, "I know". The more I tried to justify my decsion the more resentful I became of her. I just stopped being sucked into a debate with them and smiled while they were being so negative.

The first time my dad met my boys he gave them anything they wanted though. My mom still had a really hard time the first visit. She said things like--No amount of money in the world would make me do what you are doing & --you must be crazy to be taking little kids, your kids are so independent and now look at what you have done.

However, I was very certain in my decision and I have come to realize that I can make my own decisions and it is nice to have their support, but not necessary. She is being much nicer now and is getting more used to the idea.

My inlaws however have been wonderful and have even taken the boys for an overnight. They came and helped set up their room and bought them new clothes.

Either way, I am so glad we did this. This can be a great way to provide a home for a child without all of the expense. I would like to talk to you more, but I don't want to post some things on the board. Email me if you want to talk.

Jamie