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In order to adopt internationally from ANYWHERE you will have to have fingerprints done and run through the FBI's database. It's federal law. If you were arrested, those records are likely to come up.
When we finalized our adoption, our state required us to be fingerprinted again. And again, it's possible that the arrest record might come up under those circumstances.
I have to say, that the fact that you are unwilling to discuss this episode to the point of torpedoing your plans and dreams is troubling. You should be proud that you were smart enough to know the signs of abuse and strong enough to leave. Rather than continue to give the abuser more of a hold over you, why not just discuss this as an unfortunate episode? I'm sure this relationship helped formed your decision to become a Christian.
Certainly, I'm willing to speak with pride about times I realized I was headed in the wrong direction and righted myself quickly. We've all dated people only to discover that they had major character flaws. I see no reason to be ashamed of an error in judgement that was rectified and regretted. The fact that this episode is still too painful to discuss, seems to being giving it great power and contradicts your assertion that it has little bearing on who you are today.
In our home study, we had to discuss a million things that we would never talk about with even our nearest and dearest. It's a horrible invasion of privacy. But we were willing to go through it all because we wanted to be parents.
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