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Originally posted by BrandyHagz
Mary,
The rule of thumb when dealing with the home study worker is, be honest...embarrassingly honest.
Also, in regards to criminal background checks, I've heard the following said, "If they took your picture and your prints, then you'll need to explain"
Its better to be embarrassed by bringing it up, than it is to be ashamed and embarrassed by it being discovered in the background check...at which point they may question your honesty throughout the entire study.
Good luck!
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I feel that what happened then has nothing to do with who I am today. I left this man Immediately after I realized he was abusive (which is why he retaliated against me). I have not yet been asked about arrest's, just convictions. I don't think I am willing to open up this aspect of my past to anyone even if it means there is a chance I will not be allowed to adopt-it would simply be too painful (I am not worried about it being embarassing). Also, I feel it gives the completely wrong impression of who I really am today. Are some countries more lenient then other's in terms of asking about your record (i.e. is it sufficient for some homestudy agencies and some countries that you simply have no convictions?) If not, do I have any other adoption options (for instance an "older" or "special needs" child in the US?) I would really appreciate any help or advice that anyone could offer. Dying to be an adoptive MOM.
