[HappyMomAnna]

Yes--we have had issues on both sides of our family. And they have made very clear every single fear and concern they have about our decision.

We learned VERY early on to be careful as to exactly what info we provided our families with.....much of it really is none of their business! Getting their support priot to the placement was difiicult--however both sides of the family have fallen in love with our children and are now very suppotive.

My best advice is to exculde the family from much of the actual details....for example we have NOT told our family the exact nature of the situations our little ones experienced leading to their adoption....We have simply told our family that their birthmother was unable to properly care for them.....

We were in instant love with our children the moment we met them......but, we saw our family and friends size the children up and LOOK for the 'problems'. Often we do need to put the family in their place.

Extended family is an issue with this path of adoption....but, it is equally important to have your families support whereever you possibly can. Most often the family is simply concerned that you will be hurt.... I guess we need to understand this when they are giving us their opinions....But, it is often helpful to remind them that you have taken the training--you have done the work and you have a fair understanding of what you are getting yourself into!

Good luck and welcome to the support you will find here!